How was school today?
If you really want to know, don’t ask that question. Instead, ask about a moment. Was there a moment during the day your child felt excited? proud? confused? amused? worried? cared for? or disrespected? Of course, don’t ask all of these questions on the same day. And do ask them at the right time. Specifically a time you can focus on the answers (like at dinner maybe). Then don’t interrupt, do ask for more details and thank them for sharing. If you know how to do it, you can actually find out how your child’s school day went.