You Should Know
Think about it. As an adult, if you were forced to apologize to someone before you were ready, would it really make things better? Probably not. Then why do we force our kids to apologize? Obviously, it’s important to right a wrong, but forcing an immediate apology can send the wrong message. It’s better to give them some time to process their feelings and empower them to find their own way to repair a situation – with a little help and encouragement, of course.
Birth order is fascinating to think about, but it doesn’t predetermine personality. Temperament and the way a child reacts to their situation are what actually have the biggest influence. The parent’s child-raising style has an impact too. That’s why it’s important to avoid labels and recognize the positive traits of each child no matter where they fall in the ranks. Acknowledge the pros and cons of each position if/when it comes up and give support as needed. Also, make sure everyone is getting quality one on one time.
Parenting Expert, Dr. Laura Marham says playing physical games with our children makes them more cooperative and parents more energized. No, really. Children need to play and physical play reduces stress hormones and increases bonding hormones for both of us. After a long day at school and work, two to ten minutes of active play should be plenty to make both parent and child feel better. Then we can settle down for a relaxing, cooperative evening. It’s worth a try.
We were told as children not to talk to strangers. We tell our children not to talk to strangers. But now new research says talking to strangers could be good for you. Of course, safety is important, but chatting with fellow travelers, shoppers or store clerks can give you (and the recipient) an emotional boost. It seems that when we small talk with strangers, we put on our happy face. And that can affect our mood, not to mention make the whole experience more enjoyable.